Warning! Don’t forget to be a Lady

Updated: Sep 3, 2019

I need no reminding to remind me to be me!



The phrase ‘be a lady’ conjures up so many thoughts and ideas. Almost always used as warning… don’t forget to be a lady. I can feel someone’s judging eyes and shaking finger pointing at me already… head slightly titled – you know the one.


The essence of the phrase appears to remind women that there is a certain way in which they must behave – and are expected to behave. Do this, don’t do that, remember this and don’t speak like that. Jeez this make me mad. How dare someone tell me, a grown woman, how to behave and define being a so-called lady… and does this reaction, by definition mean I am categorically not a lady?


Fine then. I won’t be a lady. But let me tell you a bit about me. Mother of two, wife of ten years, corporate ladder climber. Eldest daughter of three, sister to two, aunt, cousin, niece and granddaughter.


So tell me dear friends, at what point am I not a lady?

The Oxford Dictionary defines lady as a polite way of referring to a woman. It states nothing about behaving or expectation of behaviour. When did society take it upon itself to redefine lady? Well apparently, it has.


So here in lies my challenge and subsequent conflict. Yes, I am polite and I am kind and respectful. I care about the people around me and causes close to my heart; I strive to be the best version of myself, at home, at work and with all the people in my life. This is what being a lady is. Let me be strong and assertive and know what I want. Let me be vivacious and out-there and opinionated, educated, daring and fierce. Let me, be me.


I will not, cannot, forget to be a lady, Because being a lady is all of these things and so much more. It’s being courageous and comfortable within my skin to do what I want to do, when I want to with respect and considered thought. To measure to my expectations and not a definition that acts as a warning against what I shouldn’t do.


I need no warning to remind me to be me.

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